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The Dating Rules

Somehow you and the object of your affection / admiration will make contact. It may be in a bar, gym, coffee shop or in the street. But this has to happen in order for you to move on to the next stage 中年交友平台. There is no point in you fancying the barista from the coffee shop if you are not going to do anything about it. They may feel just as awkward as you.

It can be a little awkward if it is somewhere that you regularly because if you approach them and they turn you down then you need to be either confident enough to say (not literally) “their loss” or be prepared to change venue. My personal opinion is that you should just hold your head high. There are many reasons why they may not be receptive. Maybe they are married or are with someone 交友平台. Perhaps they have just come out of a long term relationship and are not ready to meet someone new. It may also be the case that they may have a lot going on and now just isn’t the right time for them. Don’t get caught up thinking that if you were “The One” then none of that matters. It does. It has to be right person, right time.

2. Attraction

Clearly you are attracted to this person but are they attracted to you? This can be a difficult area to judge 識女仔地方. My advice, from personal experience is this, observe them not only in their interactions with you but if possible with other people also. Preferably this would be with other people that you are with and also completely separate parties. Are they more interactive with you? If there is a group of you do they usually address their comments back to you irrelevant of who made the initial comment? If so then there is a good chance that they are interested.

3. Learning about one another

This should be fairly straight forward. Be interesting, engaging and interested in what the other person has to say. Don’t be intrusive, imposing or invasive. This is a major turn off and will stop your prospective Alpha from wanting to learn more about you and will therefore stop any further development of the relationship in its tracks.

4. Discovery of underlying mutual interests and morals

See point 3. The same rules apply however just be sure that you do have something in common so as to lay the foundations. I was in a relationship once which was formed over our mutual love of coffee. We did have a lot else in common as it turned out but that was where it all started. As it turned out, we both had interests that the other wanted to know more about, but coffee was out building block.

5. Mystery

This isn’t a mystery. It’s about revealing things as and when the time is right rather than blurting it all out at once and leaving nothing to the imagination. People like a little intrigue. If we knew everything about everyone straight away then what would be the point in having friends let alone partners? There would be nothing left to discover and we could have nothing to talk about!

6. Communication

Any relationship that is going to go anywhere long term needs effective communication. I don’t just mean being able to talk about how your day was or what’s for dinner, I mean really communicate. What’s working well. What’s not working well. What is irritating you. What are you feeling. Without this, although you may enter in to a long term relationship either one of you or perhaps both of you will not feel fulfilled. Then it becomes a downward spiral. Learn your tells as well as those of your partner. Broach the subject with openness and empathy. It’s not nice to hear criticism about ourselves but you will value the people who are honest with you a hell of a lot more than those who are wolves in sheep’s clothing. Just remember that it has to be a two way street. If you give then you must expect to receive. Don’t have double standards.

7. Uncertainty

This is a natural feeling at this stage. Your feelings are beginning to get stronger and you are questioning everything. Do not panic, this is normal. If you can, embrace the feelings as they are the cementing of the foundations you have built of this relationship. View it as a fight or flight mechanism. This is your last chance to run before you are able to become too hurt. Unless you are having serious doubts at this point (in which case you should be fleeing right about now) then just accept the uncertainty as your gateway to love.

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